Even in the online-first days, singles were trying to connect.
A written response to your ad that includes “I will not tolerate…” and goes on to list dogs, cats, gerbils, rabbits, birds, and many other common pets is probably not a good choice. .
A mass-produced one-page letter extolling the wonders of the author might be something to question.
Whoever lost in checkers and therefore threw the table across the room is a definite “No”.
About the one who wants to meet you at the restaurant – it’s so that you can be observed and that single person can leave without contact if you do not visually meet the expectations when you do not have the same opportunity? No.
The one who showed you precisely lined up shirts and socks? After a dinner that included a description of every place we went to make sure every item was perfect? Uh no.
The one who can only see you one day of the week? Because that one serves the others every day – there is the Sunday one, the Monday one, the Tuesday one… feel bad” should be avoided regardless of excuses regarding working hours, etc. Even if it’s in this Christian group.
I dreaded those first dates. Accomplished women seemed to have to be careful how they described everything, including their jobs. To some I said, “I work in the library. To some, I said, “I’m a librarian. To some, I might say, “I’m the director.” I run the place.
This first meeting invariably included questions about the children. It was a good test of tolerance and interest.
I would say, “I have two sons. One has just finished shooting a movie. It’s called “Blood Salvage” and is about a family of southern rednecks in the woods of Georgia. They cause accidents on the highway and bring the bodies of all the survivors back to their machine shed from their junkyard where they hang them to stay alive as they sell them arms and legs, hearts and livers to that time.
The other is on the road with 9 Inch Nails, an underground rock band. The night I was there, Marilyn Manson opened, then Jim Rose’ Circus played, then Nine Inch Nails.
When my sons aren’t making slasher movies or playing underground rock concerts, they’re making videos for the Southern Baptist Church’s Home Mission Board. We have always believed that balance is important in life.
One returned from filming in Mexico after their last earthquake. He says the sound of an earthquake is the sound of millions of car alarms. He says it’s the land of 12 million cars, 8 of which are actually driving.
One was just filmed at the Sturgis Motorcycle Rally. He filmed the Christian Motorcycle Association and their group as they attempted to convert members of three motorcycle groups, two of which are on the list of the most dangerous outlaw motorcycle clubs. He said he learned a lot, including some things about fashion. Men can wear anything (their jackets, patches, vests, etc. and other insignia) as long as they have motorcycle boots that show some wear. Women can wear anything.
At this point, a first date said, “I belong to this biker club.”
He said, “The Christian Motorcyclists Association. We have our New Years party fast approaching. Do you want to come with me ? »
We went in his jeep – the winter is too cold, freezing and dangerous for motorcycles in Iowa. We had a potluck dinner at 8:00 p.m. and then we played Bible Bingo. I won the pair of salt and pepper shakers.
At 10:00 a.m. we helped clean up and everyone left for home.
We went to a singles dance. Nice three or four dates before the end.
So much for first dates in my old single world.
Wondering how this compares to the risks and benefits of online dating?
Patricia Coffie is a retired storyteller and librarian living in Waverly. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.