In the United States, the religious practice of polygynous polygamy (a.k.a. one man and several women) is primarily associated with fundamentalist Mormons. Only one family member on TLC’s current season Seeking sisters wives fits into this belief system (the Winders), but most of them mention religion and spirituality as the motivation for what they choose to do. The Snowdens, however, are an exception. Although they are spiritual and seem to have a lot of spiritual practices, they are clear that they do not practice polygamy for religious reasons.
Why do the Snowdens practice polygamy?
Ashley states at the start of Seeking Sister Wife season three that they “do not practice polygamy for religious reasons. We have chosen this life because family is at the center.”
Dimitri goes on to say that women are at the center of the family. “We want to take this idea of feminist entanglement and build a legacy around it.”
They seem to have a big vision of their way of life which involves building a business and a multigenerational legacy. Vanessa explained part of this vision to her family before marrying (briefly) the Snowdens in season two. She explained that one woman could stay at home with the children while another woman ran the family dance studio. This made her sister question if the structure was some kind of pyramid scheme that depended on them to keep bringing in more women to do the chores other women didn’t want to do so they could make their dreams come true. .
The Snowdens explained their take on family a little more in a 2018 radio interview with The universe of Sway.
Dimitri came to the conviction that he was living polyamy in his early twenties. “I determined and decided this was the vision and version of the family unit,” he says.
Dimitri says he told Ashley right away when they met in 2009, and she immediately accepted his vision. Ashley was familiar with polygamy because she studied anthropology in college.
When asked to elaborate on why they practice polygamy and explain the reasoning behind it, Dimitri explained his vision:
“Part of our why is, if human evolution takes place through women. If women are healthy, happy, whole. If they are epic, then whatever comes from a woman will be epic: that she’s having kids, whether she’s an artist or in the corporate world, anything she does will be inherently epic if she’s healthy and happy.
If I can provide, if I can be the catalyst for it, so that She doesn’t have to work, the following wives won’t have to work. You also have to be a baby factory either, you can express your creative freedom because we have services that help around the house.
The net of this means that I have generations who are now happy, fully creative humans who are not weakened by the economy or those other challenges that can arise in a less structured family than I think.
Ashley then took over to explain her point of view, which included a bit of inspiration from School house Rock:
“For me, I sort of move on the vibrations. I am one of those people of “good atmosphere”. I’ve always had an affinity for the number 3. And three has always been my magic number, since my school days, Schoo House Rock.
We can raise our children. I don’t just want to raise children. I want our children to be able to be creative, and to have more women, more models, because I don’t know everything, I don’t have everything.
And so when we think about bringing this woman in, she’s going to be an amazing woman. And our children are going to be able to come to me for certain things, and to go to her for certain things.
We build together, so I imagine this huge family business. We run the business together, and we keep the economy in our family. In this way, we pass it down through the generations, then our children can have it. To me it’s kind of like the anthropological part and why many families choose to do it, not even in religion. Many African nations do not do this for religion. It’s normal. It is everyday women who come together. The men are just fighting, fighting or making money, and whatever they do is fine. But it’s the women who work together.
Dimitri’s father was from Havana, Cuba, and was a “rolling stone,” implying that he had multiple wives and never stayed too long in one place. Dimitri says he was able to observe this and developed his own version of it.
Even though the Snowdens don’t use religion as the reasoning for what they do, they are clear that they are not looking for a polyamorous or polyandrous structure. Polyamorous relationships (multiple love) are increasingly common in the United States. Polyandry (multiple husbands) is a woman with multiple husbands. The Snowdens (and other couples on the show) practice strict polygyny, which means a closed relationship where a man has multiple wives, and the wives cannot have any outside relationships, or even have sex or romantic relationships on them. with each other.
What religion or spirituality do the Snowdens believe in?
The Snowdens don’t seem to have a name for their spiritual beliefs, but they do seem to have a lot of rules and life choices. Many of these rules apply to any woman who wishes to join her family.
Dimitri told Sway in the above interview from 2018 that he believes in ‘female centrism’. He states that we scientifically know that the first carbon-based bipedal life form was female. “So why would we think God has a pen? ” he asks.
When asked if they were atheists, they replied that they are not. They believe in a higher power, which they call “He / She / Them”.
When Dimitri proposed to Vanessa in Season 2, he gave her an ankle bracelet and a bindi. The ankle bracelet is placed on the right ankle during the marriage proposal and is moved to the left after the marriage.
Ashley wears a bindi and has her daughters wear bindi. She says the point is not religious, but spiritual. His daughters also wear the point. She thinks it helps them have more awareness and insight. Bindis are traditionally worn by Hindus. Often it is the sign of a married woman, although there is a part of India where men wear bindis for religious reasons.
They follow a mostly vegan and highly restrictive alkaline diet, as devised by Dr. Sebi, a self-proclaimed healer who doesn’t actually have a doctorate. They never eat dairy, beef or pork for spiritual reasons, although they do eat fish sometimes and this implies that they can allow family members to eat poultry.
Ashely decided that any potential female sister would follow a 21-day pH detox regimen to bring her pH balance into line with Ashley’s before sleeping with Dimitri. This practice appears to have started with Vanessa in season two and is continuing.