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Why do men hate discussing money?

Omo Baba, Omo Baba…. Craig was shocked to hear his high school nickname behind him at the mall.

Omo baba why you say like you don’t remember me? My name is nah Kennedy your superhero friend from high school.

Kennedy reached out to give Craig a handshake. While Craig was still trying to figure out the face of the person standing in front of him.

It’s been over 17 years and he could barely recognize Kennedy without the nickname “Omo baba” which was a popular nickname given to him by his classmates at school.

If you say you don’t know me, I’m going to die today, exclaimed Kennedy. Craig burst out laughing and the two left the open space in the center of the mail, away from the people who were already staring at them as Kennedy was being too dramatic.

Craig’s memory was immediately jolted when he noticed the way Kennedy walked beside him. Kennedy had a serious accident at school and broke his leg trying to play “Superman”; hence why they gave him the superhero name.

My superhero friend, what are you doing here? Craig asked Kennedy.

Opeey o now he finally sees me…. I come from “JAPA” come this UK where I find greener pastures. I want to go to Canada first, but it seems UK is easier at the moment. Kennedy explained.

Good for you and good to see you my superhero friend. I could never have recognized you. You are much taller now and more beautiful. Craig laughed.

They both hung out, exchanged numbers, and said goodbye.

Craig reluctantly returned home from the mall. Decided to use own keys to open door without having to disturb anyone. Lay down on the bed and fell asleep

The next day was a Sunday, he and his wife hadn’t spoken since the fight the night before.

Unbeknownst to Craig, Lola had already written to her former employer about the possibilities of returning to work in Nigeria from which she obtained a confirmation note. Her job as a technology expert was hard to fill, her company was thrilled to have her back with a raise.

They both dressed up and went to church without saying a word to each other.

The preacher warned the congregation of two books of the Bible, he quoted Ephesians 4:32 and Colossians 3:13.

“Be kind to one another, compassionate, forgiving one another, as God has forgiven you because of Christ.”

“Abstain from one another, and forgive one another, if any quarrel with any; as Christ has forgiven you, so do you.

Craig felt convinced that the preacher was talking to him. As he sat, he tried to hold his wife’s hand next to him but she pushed him away. She excused herself at that moment to go to the bathroom.

Is this how we will keep wickedness with ourselves? Craig broke the silence by driving the car with his wife after the church service.

Since you requested, I am returning to Nigeria to continue my life and work. Lola broke down and burst into tears at the same time.

Craig found a place to park the car for a minute. He pulled his wife to his chest and hugged her tightly. It’s okay, I know you’re mad at me and stressed. Let’s go home and think about this, so we can decide together.

Discussing financial issues is one of those topics Craig always avoids. When he feels uncertain about the future, he prefers to plan for the day that comes. He’s not really an ambitious man like his wife would like him to be. He’s an easy-going guy; he likes to take his time doing most things. He is a bit phlegmatic by nature. Not easily aroused to action or display of emotions; apathetic; calm or composed.


Most people with a phlegmatic temperament are easy-going, calm and emotionless. They can be indecisive and agreeable and are generally happy to let others make decisions for them. Hence his attraction to Lola who is rather ambitious and has an angry temperament.

Craig thinks he’s accomplished a lot in this life by taking his time; while Lola simply thinks that Craig is a procrastinator and has no desire to make money or even try.

If Lola wants something, she goes. She makes decisions on the spot and always likes to have a plan to work with. She is the one who proposes most of the activities and drives the relationship forward. While Craig is the one who is peaceful and calm and that’s what drew him to Lola’s angry energy. [Take-charge temperament].

Why do you always step aside whenever we have to discuss money issues and financial planning? Lola asked Craig.

To be continued.